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4 Steps To Achieve Good Communication

January 19, 2019

Knowledge. Good communication starts with this laborious task of gathering knowledge. Knowledge that you gather and would work for you in the future. To bettering your communication skills, broadening your understanding and increasing the amount of the refinement of the intellect.Communication. Learning by language to affect somebody else’s life and mind, learning by words and phrases and sentences to communicate with other people. There is magic in good communications. Words are almost god like. God was the word; the word was god. Words can be lifechanging, words can formulate ideologies, we must find ways to give words an identity so that it can be understand.  4 steps to achieve good communication. Being successful is not doing extraordinary things, being successful is doing ordinary things in an extraordinary way. 1.Have something good to say. You cannot speak what you don’t know. You can’t translate what you don´t have. You can’t give what you don’t possess. Good communication starts wit preparation. Getting ready. Spend part of the day getting ready for the next day, the same with the next week. Continual research to develop new skills. Continually learn and continually grow. Preparation is like building an account from which to draw. When you want to talk get sure to have an account ready. Prepare on purpose to get you ready to create in communication the skills necessaries to get you where you want to go.  - Interest: take a new interest in life. Be more interested every day, see if you can get more of everyday. Get interested in life and people.  - Fascination. Go a bit beyond simple interest. Fascinated people aren’t satisfied with surface information. They got to know more than just what appears. What is really happened? They have the appetite, this fascination about life and everything. Take a new fascinated look at life and what is going on, it would now show up in color in sharpness in future communication. Turn frustration into fascination. Make people wonder what is going on when a frustrating smile gets across your face. - Sensitivity. You got to feel the experience. Being touched by a wide range of human experiences. Get moved with compassion, be affected, touched. Try to understand the dark side of life, the tragic side, extreme sorrow side, your life is let to be swallowed. Get out your own world of sheltered experiences. True values of life come by the contrast, and unless you experience more the contrast even the values you consider valuable become a little bit swallowed if you don’t understand the contrast. Its hard to appreciate the winning until you have done some loosing, its hard to appreciate success until you have done some failing, and if you have done some failing success becomes a much larger word and valuable commodity. You can’t know people´s situations until you live there. Let them affect you, educate you, teach you, let them give you a broader range of emotional wealth and worth and you would be able to touch people that you couldn’t reach before, just by going thru other´s situations. - Knowledge. Good communication starts with this laborious task of gathering knowledge. Knowledge that you gather and would work for you in the future. To bettering your communication skills, broadening your understanding and increasing the amount of the refinement of the intellect. 2. Learn to say it well. Once you got the information on the awareness and the understanding and knowledge now the key is to know how to translate it into emotions, filings, phrases, paragraphs.

  • Repetition. It takes practice to learn a new skill, you must go again and again and again. Keep at it and keep at it and you´ll get better. Its simple, do it a thousand times and you inevitably do it well. Repetition with purpose, the purpose is to grow, to change, to develop, to expand, to make progress.

  • Sincerity from the heart, with noble intent, wishing to bring value. There is no substitute for sincerity. I can forgive you for an error in judgement, but I can’t forgive you for an error in intent.

  • Brevity. You can linger too long on any one point. Tell short stories. People forgot how you started, the human attention spam is short, practice on the kids because their attention spam is really short. Get it to the point. Be brief and affective. Sometimes we try to make up in words what we lack in self-confidence. So, part of the key to be brief is personal development, understanding self-worth, now you can use the economy of words. That what you are add so much weight to what you say that you don’t have to say very much

  • Style. Body language, gestures, facial expressions, emotion. Its not only the matter you cover, it’s the manner in which you cover the matter. It is important to emphasize the point. Become a student of stile. Borrow bits and pieces to make your own distinctive style. Become uniquely you.

  • Vocabulary. Saying it well, use the proper choice of words. There is a relationship between vocabulary and behavior. The more limited the vocabulary the more tendency to poor behavior. Vocabulary is a way of seeing, the vocabulary is to see the images that comes to our minds, if we have a poor set of vocabulary, skills and tools to interpret, you can imagine the errors in judgement. If you can’t see well you can imagine the errors you can make in how they compound their life. We do 2 things with vocabulary, we interpret, and we express. If you can’t interpret and express well you can imagine what a turn it is to your life, to the extra treasures, the extra feelings, awareness, influence. The dictionary is a good book to have in your library

  • Don’t forget to say it. Practice the art every chance you have. Its easy not to practice but you will regret the lack of practicing it every day for when the real important occasions arrive you have the gift, the clarity, the substance and the emotions. Actions are no substitute for words, don’t fail to say it. Words are not substitute for action, neither extreme ways are good. Is good to send flowers but don’t let flower talk, flowers have a limited vocabulary. Use language to affect people, to translate feelings of hearth and mind. Take the extra time to engage in this art and practices.

Say It Well

3.Read your audience. Pick up the signals. Learn to watch and see what is happening.  If you want to be affective you got to get the feedback, to pick up the signals.

  • Part of reading is listening. Pick of a lot of clues about what they say.

  • Read what you see. How to read a person like a book – Nuremberg. Good book. Body language. Don’t mistake courtesy for consent. Don’t mistake kindness for acceptance. We learn in society to be kind, but that doesn’t mean we have to accept it.

  • Reading the emotional signals. Women have advantage in here. Be sharper or softer. Be sensitive to the situation. Is summit learning. How are you coming across?

4. Intensity. Here starts the power of what we say. Part of the strength is the words we choose, the greater part of the strength of what we say is the emotions that are loaded into the words. There is no greater power than words loaded with emotion. Real persuasion comes from putting you into what you say. Learning to measure your emotions is very important. You don’t shoot a cannon to a rabbit. It´s effective but there is no more rabbit. You don’t need an atomic explosion for a minor point. Enough but not too much. All your experiences and how they affected you, that is the total sum of your emotional content. The key is well chosen words mixed with well-chosen emotions.